Dear Friend...

If depression and discontentment are common companions, 

you need to stop whatever you are doing right now and read this page.

You are about to discover the tools you need to understand and manage anxiety and all negative thoughts,

to manage conflict and criticism, to inject healthy patterns into your life and the lives of those around you,


so you can be fearless, live life with joy and purpose, and become the best version of yourself.

But first, let me ask you a question.

Do any of these describe you?

  • Unfulfilled spiritual life
  • Can't sense the nearness of God/Higher power/Spirit
  • Prayer life isn't what it could be
  • Excessive worrying
  • Fearful of what can (and probably will) go wrong
  • Restlessness in your spirit
  • Fatigue
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Avoid conflict

You can 'unblock' your spirit to engage in an active and vital spiritual life, whether you are religious or not and connect with the profound love and power available to you, that will grow joy and purpose in your life. 

All these negative feelings will only set you back, stop you from reaching your goal and keep your potential hidden inside you.

Anxiety is one of the hidden symptoms that can kill your career, your relationships, and your mental wellbeing!

This is why you need to learn how to manage, overcome, and get rid of these negative feelings, and grow a foundation for your spirit to grow and soar.

But Guess What?

I have some good news for you, friend!

Everything is going to change for you, starting today!

Your frustration ends here! Now!


Why 3 Ls?

Shine a LIGHT in the deepest, darkest corners of your soul.

So that you can enjoy your LIFE as it was meant to be.

And be free to LOVE and be loved.

"fiLLLed" is perfect for you if you want to understand and manage your anxiety, so that you can live a stress-free life!

Anxiety, criticism, conflict, and overwhelming emotions dominate our actions and reactions until we learn to understand where they arise from, how to manage them, and how to interact with others in ways that invite clear communication, healthy boundaries, and a mutual desire for growth.

This is what this transformational program is here to offer – SOLUTIONS.

You may not even be aware of the unhealthy patterns in your relationships, but as mentor said again and again: "One well-connected and self-aware person can bring health to an entire system."

Proven & powerful strategies to overcome your stuck points, how to face your inner demons, the simple step-by-step action plan for overcoming resistance to change, how to silence your fear…

and much more waiting to be uncovered inside this program.

If you want to connect with the love of God/Higher power/Spirit and experience spiritual fulfiLLLment, overcome your anxiety and have more meaningful relationships personally, professionally, and socially; if you want to halt the unhealthy patterns in your family or workplace; if you want to bring health to all of the systems you participate in...

then this is the program you have been looking for.

Here's what you'll learn in this transformational program...

  • How your tendencies for faith & spirituality were formed in early childhood
  • How your emotional process, patterns of reactivity, and conflict negotiation styles were formed
  • How unhealthy patterns are often passed down through generations in families
  • How to identify the belief systems that stop you from taking action and turn them into helpful strategies
  • Common bodily symptoms & signs of anxiety you need to know
  • How you are affected by ‘distorted’ thoughts that paralyze you
  • Why avoiding your fears will only make it worse. Do this instead
  • Practical steps to act on your fears & become the best version of yourself
  • How to be a detective and uncover the patterns and behaviors in systems that need to be healed
  • How to revisit estranged relationships
  • How to avoid cutting-off or fusing with another in relationships

This is the Golden Key for you if you want to...

  • Overcome anxiety and manage conflict
  • Get rid of fears that are holding you back from fully participating in your life
  • Silence the inner critics that are slowing you down
  • Understand what criticism from others really means, and how to use it to build health in your relationships
  • Lead a happier, fulfilled, and extraordinary life
  • Be the catalyst of health for your family, and pass on healthy patterns to your children
  • Have confidence in your ability to navigate difficult and uncomfortable situations and experiences
  • Lead others to greater emotional and spiritual health through the life you live and the choices you make
  • Be the hero you need in your life

How does it work?

Melissa Ekben

Creator of FiLLLed, Founder and CEO Melissa Ebken, Light Life and Love Ministries®

As a small-church pastor for the last 25 years, I have walked closely with people and led them to understand themselves, their families, and their faith. I was fortunate to receive training in Bowen Theory in the beginning of my pastoral work, and to do the difficult inner work in my own life. I identified patterns in my family and in my own reactions and behaviors. Once I was able to see these reactions and behaviors of my family and of myself clearly and in a broader context, I was able to make changes within and provide opportunities in my family for healing. The foundation of my faith both supported this work and grew along with it. Through this continuing process, I am a better human, a better wife, a better mother, and a better pastor. As an agent of wholeness, I seek to create safe spaces for people to do this beautiful, holy, and difficult work so that they, too, can experience healing of old wounds, and consciously create a life that reflects their values and aspirations.

You Only Have 3 Options Right Now:

Option A

Do Nothing

If you choose to do nothing, your life will remain the same as it is right now. You will still be controlled by anxiety, worry, stress, and conflict… which will block your progress to upgrade your life.

Option B

Look for other solutions

Many programs offer emotional and psychological understanding. These are fantastic programs. Understanding how our emotions function is vital to growing as a person. One who studies this about him/herself will experience a better understanding and personal growth. 

There are other programs out there that teach faith formation. I love these - our spirituality is vital to understanding who we are as a person, what our place is in the world, and how we connect with the collective unconscious. These programs help us to find our purpose, to identify our priorities, and to draw near to the Source of light, life, and love. 

However, this program is unique in that it integrates the two. Spirituality and psychology presuppose and draw upon the other. An innate sense of our value and worth and place in this world (spirituality) is foundational to our understanding of who we are and why we do the things we do (psychology). By integrating our understanding of spiritual and emotional health, and how it’s expressed (through our bodies - physical health!) we transcend systems and structures to become who we were created to be: redeemed, valued, and loved/beloved participants in the life we want and create. 

Option C

Get Immediate Access To fiLLLed

FiLLLed can help you to create your own success story, level-up your life, and achieve your goals — all by teaching you how to deepen your relationship with God/Higher Power/Spirit and learning how to manage your anxiety and emotions, so that you can be intentional in creating healthy and life-giving relationships.

Waste no more time and begin your journey to banishing worry for good!

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by joining this program.


"Melissa loves Jesus and teaches with a passion that is clearly grounded in the Word of God. She understands the range of human emotions and how they can affect our personal growth. Even better, she understands how this relates to our faith. Her message is powerful! If you are looking for a coach who is fun, transparent, wise, and passionate about how spiritual and emotional principles change your life, Melissa is the perfect choice for you!"


"What a revelation to combine our spiritual world with our physical world in such an enlightening and very practical way. The tools provided during the program were more beneficial than I could have imagined. I have already started to apply the wisdom and techniques in my personal life and I really want to share this with my family and others. This was explained so well and is very easy to comprehend. We’re never too old or young to gain a better understanding of how we can manage in the day to day when we have a resource like this! Thank you Melissa!"


"I've coached with Melissa over an extended period of time, and I have always made great progress through her coaching. She is compassionate and creative in her approach. She is an attentive listener and always "feels" present as we think together. I highly recommend Melissa as a coach!"

-Cory M.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is fiLLLed?

FiLLLed is a unique program that combines spirituality and psychology to help you gain a deep understanding of who you are and why you do the things you do, so that you can know the exact steps you need to take in order to overcome anxiety and enjoy the life you have always dreamed of and that you were created for.

What's included in fiLLLed?

When you sign up for fiLLLed you get:

  • Bi-Weekly Modules including videos and worksheets that help you progress toward your goal, which means that you won't be stuck trying to figure everything out on your own.
  • Lifetime Access to the fiLLLed Program Portal with materials and worksheets to help you on your journey which means that you can take everything at your own pace and not feel rushed
  • Access to a Judgement-Free, Private Community for Accountability and Support which will continue beyond six months which means that you make new friends who motivate you and help you to stay the path as you journey toward your freedom from anxiety.
  • Monthly Group Coaching Calls with Melissa where you can get your burning questions answered as well as further training which means that you don't have to overthink anymore as you will have guidance from one of the best coaches in the field.
Is fiLLLed right for me?

This program is for you if:

  • you are willing to explore new thoughts and ideas (for the sake of your growth - not to conform to the ideas of others)
  • you can be a safe space for others to express themselves without fear of condemnation, and expect/receive the same for yourself
  • you want to do the inner work to understand who you are and who you are not
  • you can support others in their unique paths of growth that may be different than yours
  • you want to understand your emotions, motivations, temptations, and defense mechanisms
  • you want to understand and manage your anxiety and emotions
  • you want to understand others’ emotions, motivations, temptations, and defense mechanisms
  • you want to identify unhealthy patterns and trauma in your family’s history and heal them
  • you want to model healthy patterns in your life and pass on healthy patterns to your children
  • you are ready to embrace the difficult and uncomfortable situations and experiences in your life so you can grow through them.
  • you want better relationships personally, professionally, and socially
Who should NOT join fiLLLed??

This program is NOT for you if:

  • you cannot support others if they hold different beliefs than you
  • you are unwilling to explore new thoughts and ideas, especially ideas of faith and spirituality
  • you are looking for a church/religious community (though if you are, contact me I can help you identify the type of community that may be a good fit for you, and am happy to serve you in this way)
  • you are unwilling to look at yourself clearly for the purpose of growing
  • you are unable or unwilling to commit to doing the inner work of understanding yourself
How do I get access to fiLLLed?

Click Here to register and join to get immediate access to the program and begin your journey to freedom from anxiety!

What is my investment in the fiLLLed program? 

This is an investment that will help you live your best life now! I could easily charge thousands of dollars for this, but because I desperately want to help you and as many people like you as possible to achieve your potential and do away with anxiety, I am only charging $1200 for this program. There are payment plans available and if you pay in full, you get a further discount of $200. Click Here to view your payment options.

What if I want a few other questions answered before joining?

Click Here to book a Free 15-minute Discovery Call with Melissa where you can get all your additional questions answered.

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