Spiritual direction gives you space to explore questions of the soul. With fiLLLed you will find more LIGHT, more LIFE, and more LOVE.

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Learn 3 ways a spiritual director can enliven your spiritual life


Engage Your Spiritual Experiences

Have you encountered God in a way you don't understand? Perhaps you had a powerful prayer experience, a feeling of deep peace in nature, or a sense of guidance in a challenging time. A spiritual director provides a safe space to discuss these experiences without judgment. They'll ask insightful questions to help you discern their meaning and deepen your connection with the divine. A spiritual director will also help you distinguish between intuition, imagination, and genuine spiritual encounters.


Integrate Spirituality Into Your Daily Life

Do you struggle to connect your spirituality with everyday living? Your director can guide you in incorporating practices like prayer, meditation, or reflection into your routine, to make lasting changes. They can help you find ways to weave them into your schedule, even amidst the busyness of daily life.  They can also suggest practices that resonate with your personality and spiritual style,  whether it's journaling Scripture reflections, taking mindful walks in nature, or incorporating acts of service into your week.


Feel Your Spirit Soar To New Heights

Imagine a life of fulfillment, freedom, and a deep and meaningful connection with the Divine. Spiritual direction can guide you toward this potential, helping you become the person you were meant to be. Spiritual Direction can help you identify areas for growth, develop your spiritual gifts, and live a life that reflects your values and purpose. Investing in spiritual direction can be a transformative step in your spiritual growth. You will gain a trusted guide and a companion on your journey.

Resources For the Spiritual Journey

Find Your Spiritual Personality

Quick Course

Start here. Once you have a better understanding of how you connect with God/Higher Power, then you can set up spiritual practices that work for you. Research has shown that we have four basic instincts when it comes to connecting to and communicating with the Divine. Though we make use of each of them, identifying our dominant instinct accelerates spiritual growth and shapes the way we approach spiritual practices. Connection with the Divine begins within.

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Resource Hub - Free Resources

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The resource hub is for you. It contains devotions to support you, meditations to create a safe space that you can revisit anytime, affirmations to help you create a spiritually forward mindset, Bible study tools & background to help you gain more from engaging sacred texts, and much more to support you in your spiritual journey and faith development. The spiritual journey explores different methods and practices for growth. The Resource Hub is a storehouse for many of them.

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What Clients Say



"The tools provided during the program were more beneficial than I could have imagined.  I have already started to apply the wisdom and techniques in my personal life and I really want to share this with my family and others. This was explained so well and is very easy to comprehend. Highly recommend"


"Melissa has a calming presence that makes it safe to talk about the difficult things. Wrestling with fear and the need to forgive, I was hesitant about doing this work, but she made it feel safe. The process was challenging, but so worth it! My spirit feels so much lighter now after confronting my fears."


"I've coached with Melissa over an extended period of time, and I have always made great progress through her coaching. She is compassionate and creative in her approach. She is an attentive listener and always "feels" present as we think together. I highly recommend Melissa as a coach!"


"Melissa helped me to realize that I had held on to anger and hurt feelings and I needed to let them go and to forgive those who had hurt me so I could move on. Letting go of emotions is not easy, but she walked me through doing it and it was a terrific weight lifted off my shoulders. So thankful!"


"The kindness, empathy, sympathy, and understanding shared by Melissa were instrumental in changing my heart and finding a way to move forward after a heartbreaking situation.  She has a lovely presentation style that makes participants feel comfortable sharing."


"Those who are trying to heal or repair broken relationships, improve communication skills to prevent more hurt, or have undergone trauma and want to recover from it would benefit from working with Melissa. She creates a safe space to do the difficult work. Take the leap and reach out today!"

Meet Melissa

Rev. Melissa Ebken Pastor, Spiritual Director, Author, Podcaster

I help people like you to become grounded in their spiritual beliefs and practices, and grow in their faith. Connecting with the Divine is as natural as drawing a breath - yet sometimes we struggle to separate our intuition and imagination from genuine spiritual encounters, often believing those experiences are beyond our grasp. To begin, I will help you understand your spiritual personality so you can more easily engage with your Higher Power. Then, I will listen. I have found that having a "Holy Listener" allows you to explore your spiritual life and express your thoughts, feelings, and emotions related to your spirituality. Your connection, relationship, and communication with your Higher Power will broaden and deepen.

I have served churches for 25+ years and strive to support people as they grow spiritually and emotionally. I believe that our spiritual lives fuel our physical and emotional experience of life, and I seek to help others connect with their deepest and most authentic self. I began the fiLLLed spiritual direction program to create a safe space for people to explore their spirituality and grow their faith.

Speak At Your Event

Melissa regularly speaks to companies and organizations on topics of spirituality, anxiety and resilience, emotional growth & creating a healthy work culture. Click the button below to discuss potential topics for your group. Half-days and Lunch & Learns are available.

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Workshops and Retreats

Book Melissa for your next workshop or retreat. Whether half-day or weekend events, workshops and retreats are great opportunities to begin implementing strategies for spiritual and emotional health. Click the button below to discuss possible topics.

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Frequently asked questions

Q: What does fiLLLed cost?

A: Monthly group sessions are $25 and individual sessions are $75.

Q: When do I pay?

A: You pay when you schedule a session. You may schedule multiple sessions at a time.

Q: Do I have to pay for a membership or commit to several sessions?

A: Nope. fiLLLed is pay as you go. You may do as few or many sessions as you like.

Q: Can I cancel a session I have scheduled?

A: You may reschedule if you have a conflict, without additional charge, 24 hours in advance. You may cancel altogether and receive a full refund (minus any fees) up to 24 hours in advance.

Q: What if I'm unable to attend a group session?

A: Group sessions will be recorded and made available through a private link to those who have registered for it.

Q: What if I don't have a Christian background?

A: Rooted in the Christian tradition yet open to diverse beliefs and practices, I embrace a progressive outlook that honors the wisdom of various spiritual paths.

Q: How long is a session?

A: Sessions last 50 minutes.

Q: Can I schedule for a private group?

A: Most situations can be accommodated. Schedule a consult call to discuss specifics.

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